Browse Posts by Date
Our Broadcast Partners
My Old Hands | Alzheimer’s in the First Person | Barbara Taylor Vaughan
I love to have my old hands massaged. Missy was giving me a bath this morning. She always massages wonderful smelling lotion on me after my bath. On days that she feels ok, she massages my hands for a long time with the lotion. It feels so good. It is a treat she gives me.
Today while she was massaging my hands it made me think of my husband, he used to massage my hands at night after I had worked hard in the factory all day, his old arthritic hands, massaging mine.
When he was dying of cancer, Missy used to get in bed with him and massage his back and hands for hours to help his cancer pain. When she would massage his hands he would just smile at her…I will never forget that sight, such love.
One night I was massaging his hands and he told me how beautiful I was. I told him he must be hallucinating. He told me he was sorry over the years he didnt tell me enough. He said, “You know its like living by the beautiful ocean, or by the Grand Canyon, you see it everyday, you forget the ahh of it.” He said, “I forgot becuase I saw you every day, how beautiful you were…I took your beauty for granted.”
Him massaging my hands, Missy massaging his hands and trying to ease his cancer pain, this morning Missy massaging my old hands. Just beautiful memories, even though sad. I hope Alzheimer’s isn’t letting me remember these memories one more time because the Alzheimer’s is planning on erasing them from my mind. Memories are our life…and I hope Alzheimer’s isnt planning on taking my beautiful memories and my life from me.
Just massaging my old hands…I told Missy how beautiful she was. She giggled and told me I was silly. I dont want her to think I take her for granted…I will try and tell her everyday…memories…just from having my old hands massaged.
held the joys of a lifetime,
the sadness of times lost,
worked tirelessly to care for a family,
and were wrung on nights when the sands of time seemed to be slipping away.
- Annette Zeidman
___________________________________About the Author: Barbara Taylor Vaughan is 90 and in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's. She started a Facebook page to help chronicle her illness and put a face on Alzheimer's. Barbara hopes educating others will inspire them to volunteer to help ease the suffering of those with the disease, families, caregivers. Her relationship with her daughter and caregiver, Missy, and her compassion and humor are inspirational. You can subscribe to her on Facebook where she has opened her page to offering advice to your questions about life and living with Alzheimer's "from a little old lady."
More from A Patient’s Perspective
Alzheimer’s in the First Person
Barbara Taylor Vaughan is 90 and in the early stages of Alzheimer's. Barbara and Melissa Vaughan are putting a face on the disease by chronicling Barbara's illness. Melissa, living with Multiple Sclerosis, is Barbara's daughter and caregiver.
They hope educating others will inspire them to volunteer to help ease the suffering of those with the disease, thier families and caregivers. Barbara and Melissa's relationship, compassion and humor are inspirational.
We love them and thank them for their humanity and generosity of spirit.
RX: Nurse Talk eBlast
A dose of what is coming up on the show and a laugh or two. Take one weekly.